Welcome to Rejuvenate Life where I, Robyn Vintiner, hope to inspire you to live a more meaningful, purpose filled life, by overcoming the barriers that are preventing you from reaching your full potential.
I started my career as a physiotherapist, added acupuncture and now life coaching. I found that I needed counselling skills for clients with physical problems who would tell me all about the problems they were having with their partner, children boss etc. This emotional & psychological baggage was affecting their ability to heal.
My Mission Statement is:
To help as many people as I can during my lifetime, in a way that significantly improves their lives. To this end I use my skills with acupuncture, coaching, seminars and workshops to present life’s possibilities & expand awareness wherever I am needed.
“I help people who have a habit of emotional outbursts, to find peaceful solutions, without feeling judged or labelled.”
Are you feeling unsupported, alone and uncomfortable about standing up for yourself or speaking your mind?
Are you feeling stuck, frustrated, not doing what you want or not being heard? And a stressful situation has added fuel to the fire?
Are you feeling embarrassed or ashamed that you haven’t been able to control your emotions and on top of that you feel judged and labelled?
What is it for you?
What is seen and judged are the emotional outbursts. What is not seen, are the other emotions in the background. It is time to have those background parts of you understood and acknowledged. It is time to learn how to feel calm, peaceful and in control of your outbursts.
“Angry is just sad’s bodyguard” Liza Palmer
It’s time to take back your power and direction in life!
Together we will:
Look at your underlying beliefs so that you understand what causes these emotional or angry outbursts.
Learn how to transform the angry feelings into peaceful resolutions in your relationships.
Learn techniques that help you relax so that you feel more balanced and calm.
Learn how to trust your own intuition so that you feel comfortable to express yourself calmly.
Recognise patterns of past behaviour so that you can make changes.
Learn about the parts of you that are hard to accept, so that you can see the value in behaviours you previously thought unacceptable.
Live without that low energy of shame, being judged and labelled.
Learn how to use your strengths so that you tap into your improved self-image.
What is the cost for you to not make contact with me? You know it’s time to get a grip on this self-sabotaging behaviour and free yourself from these feelings that are not empowering. This will help you become more productive, have more energy and be healthier!
There are several options to work with me outside an organisation or corporate environment.
Working with me in one-to-one coaching sessions is a very powerful option.
I also take classes of meditation, chakradance and if you are a woman, classes called ‘The Art of Feminine Presence,’ and group coaching classes.
I hold regular workshops giving people an opportunity to be introduced to my material ...
Free ‘Discover Emotional Freedom’ Consultation
Create a sense of clarity about the drama free life you really want to have.
Discover the essential building blocks for having the calm life of your dreams.
Determine the #1 thing stopping you from having the peaceful life you want.
Identify the most powerful actions that will move you towards the life you desire.
Complete the consultation with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to create the peaceful life you truly want.
The benefits of meditation are no longer being questioned. When it was suggested to me 20+ years ago, I was not interested, because I thought it was all probably going to be too hard – to sit in a lotus position and clear my head of any thoughts that wanted to pass through. Coming from a medical background where everything we do has to be scrutinised for clinical reasoning it took someone to point out the clinical or physiological reasons why I should meditate, to get me hooked.
80-90% of doctor’s visits are caused by stress. Many people think of stress as the sort of stuff that happens at work or when we’re juggling too many balls on the home front. We need stress to get us out of bed each morning – if we don’t have adrenaline and cortisol coursing through our bodies we have trouble to get going. We need stress when we have to move quickly to get out of danger, but it is essential that we are then able to return to normal when the danger has passed. Unfortunately in the western world of the 21st century, we continue to do and think things that cause a low level of stress to continue. We often think to have a balanced life we need to have sport or exercise. Some, however, take that to extreme and become obsessive about it. That’s when the stress created in our work or other parts of our lives just gets continued and we never get the break our nervous system craves.
How Does the Body Respond?
So what happens when we are stressed? Our bodies get into a state of readiness to run away or stay to fight – the’ flight or fight response.’ This causes our blood vessels to constrict, our hearts to pump faster, our breathing to speed up and our muscles to tense up. While that’s going on, our bodily systems that aren’t needed at that time, shut down. We don’t need our digestive system to be functioning, our sexual and reproductive systems operating or our immune system to be supported, while we run to avoid danger. So guess what happens when we are continuously on red alert? Those systems not being nourished start to breakdown.
East Meets West
Thousands of years ago the Asian Indian community discovered that meditation can bring about the ‘relaxation response,’ which has the opposite effect to the stress response. Research has been done proving that even 5-10 minutes of meditation daily can lower our baseline of stress and help our bodies to function at an optimal level. Meditation can be as simple as sitting quietly, breathing into the bottom your lungs and feeling no judgement for the thoughts that don’t want to stop appearing. The Buddhists call these thoughts ‘jumping monkeys.’ Acknowledging the thought, then bringing your attention back to your breath, is a way of loving yourself. Whenever we judge anything, especially ourselves, our hearts close down and it takes a sense of love to open it back up again.
I’m sorry to tell you that sitting in front of TV watching your favourite game, doesn’t cut it. Have you ever noticed how churned up you can get if the score is close or someone in the team does something silly? Yoga or something similar can also produce a relaxation response. I don’t teach yoga but I do hold meditation groups.
Meridian Tapping or Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
A study was done on 17,000 people who went for medical treatment in a major hospital. 2/3 of these people had had at least one event such as abuse, neglect or family dysfunction and they found that adverse childhood experiences were major causes of life threatening illness and poor quality of life. There was a correlation between the number of incidents that people have experienced and higher levels of diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, hepatitis, alcohol and drug abuse, unintended pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth, depression and poor health related quality of life. Those with a high number of experiences, were 3x more likely to smoke and 30x more likely to commit suicide. The middle age range, was 57, and these were childhood events.
The epigenetic work of Bruce Lipton & Dawson Church has given us a new perspective on the % balance of genes versus environment. By changing our emotional environment we can alter our state of health and being, and this is what tapping is all about and why it was originally named Emotional Freedom Technique. Emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing. No matter how careful you are with exercise and eating it is not as easy to stay healthy if you have emotional barriers standing in your way
Psychology has been all about talking through issues – meridian tapping usually combines that talking with using the knowledge of acupuncture points. There is a drop in cortisol, the hormone associated with stress, with tapping, so the body gets a calming message. As the client talks about the issue which creates a stress response, the tapping is sending a signal that the body is actually safe. So it’s combining the old signal of threat with a new signal of safety and that breaks the conditioned response loop. So although the tapping itself is not doing the healing, by lowering the stress levels in the body it allows the body to behave as it should, which then leads to the healing. This means it can be used on just about anything including sport or performance anxiety.
What is Tapping?
Tapping with your fingertips on specific acupuncture points on the head and chest, has been researched. Although it might look a little weird, if combined with thinking or talking about a problem you may be having, you can reduce or eliminate negative emotions, reduce or eliminate pain, reduce food cravings and help to implement positive goals. There can be very set ways to do Tapping, or it can be very effective if you just tap on the points as you rant about whatever has created the discomfort. Ultimately you really can’t do yourself any harm, it is about speaking your truth in that moment. Before you start it can be helpful to write down a number from 0-10 that describes your discomfort or emotional upset in that moment. After you have done some tapping and you stop to take a deep breath and allow the energy to move through your body, you can reassess where that number is now.
Some people have been taught it isn’t good to talk about the negatives. If the negatives are in there it is best to bring them up and deal with them. So the idea is to get the emotional ‘sting’ out of the equation so we can then start to put in the positive affirmations that we have been trained to do.
What Can Tapping be Used For?
Tapping can be used for just about anything, from fears and phobias, weight loss, to enhance performances including exams, public speaking and sport, improve relationships, procrastination and clutter, improving your self-image, business goals, the list is endless. I went through a period of depression a few years ago and it was tapping that turned me around. I can’t speak highly enough about it.
Emotions play a big part in our pain and in the healing process. Tapping bypasses the conscious mind so that’s why you don’t have to believe it will work in order for it to work. When we tap it’s like a mini version of what happened originally, so it’s not uncommon for people to experience sharp pains or aches. If that happens, don’t stop tapping.
We’ve all heard the saying, “If you continue to do what you’ve always done, you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got.” Sometimes it is hard to make that first step out of the Comfort Zone especially when our belief system is telling us that ‘we’re not good enough or it can’t happen.’ A LIFE coach can be there to believe in you when you’re struggling to believe in yourself.
Emotional Outburst Relief
I work with people who are taking out their frustrations on their family with emotional outbursts. They usually feel ashamed and embarrassed when it happens and regret what they have said. The cost of this behaviour is threatening their relationships with their partner and children, but they just don’t know how to stop it. As an emotional management specialist I help them understand what’s really going on so that for the first time perhaps in their life, they feel deeply supported, loved for who they are, and recognised in a way that has them able to step forward in the world with greater peace and ease in their parenting and primary relationship.
How does it feel when you are unsupported and alone, frustrated that you are not doing what you want in life or that you don’t have what it takes? How does it feel when you take it out on those nearest and dearest to you?
How would you feel about yourself and your relationships if you no longer had emotional outbursts at inappropriate times?
How would it feel to be able to express yourself calmly and with conviction that you are going to be sincerely heard?
A New Paradigm
Let me help you to understand your belief system that has caused behaviours in the past considered unacceptable by the influential adults in your life. We have been conditioned to believe that these behaviours or stories are us, and that they can’t be changed. When these stories are repeated over and over, this affects our future and affects our ability to believe that the stories can’t be changed. Recognising that the stories no longer serve us, starts the process of release.
Let me help you create a new story to regain the respect of your family and friends. I can help you navigate the gap from where you are today, to that dream of an improved self-image because you value your strengths and what you have to offer your relationships.
Coaching Can Be a Life Saver
We accept that to achieve in business or sport we will make progress more quickly with a coach. Achieving your goals in LIFE is no different. Where would you be now if you had asked for help even 1 year ago? The power of personal coaching lies in the fact that I can provide you with ongoing support as you step out of the known behaviours to integrate the new ‘story’ into your life! If you’re frustrated and sick of feeling stuck, and ready to experience yourself and life more fully, now would be a good time to ask for help to make the changes you want to experience a life that feels more balanced.
How does it Work?
I suggest a minimum package of 6 sessions/3 months.
Each session is 1-1.5 hours. These are usually best weekly at the start or at the most every second week.
Sessions can be in person, via the phone or skype.
I really enjoy working with people who are committed to making the necessary changes or growing in their lives. If you are ready and open to take the steps we feel is your best path between sessions, you will get the best results from your ‘homework.’
I recommend that you choose a package of 6 months for the best results.
Give your unique, brilliant potential the boost it deserves. Enroll to harness the awesome power and potential, that rests in your human soul and begin experiencing success in your life. It’s your turn!
We are all bundles of energy which flow through us like electrical energy. The Eastern cultures have known this for centuries. The Chinese have mapped out the lines of energy or meridians and use their system with acupuncture. The Indian culture has their own system based on 7 energy centres that run down the centre of the body, called chakras. They liken these to the lotus flower which can open and close. When open the energy is able to flow freely but if closed there are blockages to the energy flow with resultant symptoms. Using this knowledge is an extension of the coaching work that I do.
The Art of Feminine Presence™
What is the ‘feminine?’
The Feminine Essence that lives inside every woman. It’s an energetic, empowering and magnetic quality that has nothing to do with the way you look on the outside. When a woman embodies her feminine essence she does not need to project a powerful persona to attract the respect and attention she wants. She becomes attractive, radiant, sensual and grounded.
What is presence?
There are women who walk into a room and are noticed by many. They have an air of confidence about them that is attractive. There are others who frequently comment that “no one remembers I was even there.” One has ‘presence,’ one does not. Presence makes people feel more attracted to you and trusting of you.
In the pursuit of a career, or having to take care of so many people around them, many women have disconnected from their feminine essence and their personal presence without realizing it. This affects everything. From being able to attract and keep a passionate lasting love, the state of our health, fulfilment in our work, and to the unfortunate situation of women competing against women everywhere.